Updated: Oct 27, 2019
New Year's Resolutions, as we currently understand them, are built to fail. The familiar wishes we tend to make (like losing weight, spending less, relaxing more, et cetera) come into being December 31st, only to fall by the wayside within the first quarter of the year. Let's explore a new way of setting resolutions full of intentions that we will keep throughout the year.
Examine the reasons behind your resolutions
Why do you feel the need to set a resolution to lose weight, find a new job, start a business, or start working with a coach? Thorough self-examination will give you insight into the whys behind the changes you will resolve to make. Is your goal informed by society, or do you want results because it will quench the hunger in your soul? Answering these questions can give you the determination and passion to get you through the hard times, which will come whenever you decide to make radical changes in your life.
Don't be a perfectionist
Perfectionism is a problem; I speak from personal experience. I have been trying to get this blog up and running since 2015. What stopped me? I wanted everything I wrote to be "perfect," which I had trouble defining. I put so much pressure on myself that I was frozen in analysis paralysis. How many people missed out on my help because I was too concerned with saying the right things. Obviously, I'm getting over this perfectionistic impulse, but I'll probably be in recovery forever. Save yourself some anxiety and keep going toward your goals, even if you can't always do it perfectly.
Love yourself along the way
Self-love is important when trying to overcome perfectionism; realize that you're alright and worthy of the best at your core, even when making drastic changes to your life. You don't need to wait for your goal to manifest to love yourself and see yourself as the divine being you are. Self-love is the best love because you can choose to give it to yourself whenever you need to do so. A good dose of self-compassion can also do wonders if you fall short of perfection.
A lot of the time, our resolutions fail because of the way we set them. We start the new year by saying "I'm going to go out more this year." However, you have to go farther. Consider setting SMART goals. Be specific: how many times do you want to go out in a month? The number you come up with will be Measurable, which is the second letter in the acronym. Is your goal Attainable? It's difficult to meet a goal that is too far out of your comfort zone, which could lead to a dropped resolution. Is your resolution Relevant? If you asked and answered the questions I asked earlier on in this post, you should be able to answer this question. Lastly, is your resolution Time-Bound? Having a deadline for the achievement of your resolution can help you to carry them through. Like most people, I sometimes need a deadline to achieve, even if I've imposed it on myself.
Don't wait for New Year's Eve to make a change
You don't have to wait until New Year's Eve to resolve to make changes in your life, which we're all told is short. Our culture does this, but you can decide to lose weight, find a new job, or even start a business at any point of the year if that's something that calls to you. I decided to write and share this article because I believe that, as well. It's October, but it's not too soon to begin thinking about what I'd like to accomplish in the next rolling year.
Question: What would you like to accomplish in 2020? How can you get started today? Let me know in the comments!